How to Get Over a Painful Breakup: A Powerful, Honest Guide to Healing

Introduction

How to get over a painful breakup feels like a question nobody should ever have to ask… yet almost all of us do. And when the heartbreak is deep, it’s not just emotional—your nervous system feels like it’s on fire, your energy collapses, and the future feels blurry.

This isn’t just “sadness.”
It’s grief.
It’s shock.
It’s the shattering of a rhythm your body had grown used to.

I get it. Painful breakups were one of the catalysts for Revti’s own breakdown-to-breakthrough journey—the same journey that shaped Soul School AU. So what you’ll find here isn’t cliché advice or hollow optimism. It’s a lived, real, human guide.

This is for the person who feels lost, exhausted, and unsure how to move forward… but wants to.

Let’s walk this slowly, tenderly, and honestly.

Why Breakup Pain Hurts So Much

Before you can learn how to get over a painful breakup, you need to understand the internal storm happening inside you.

Breakups affect:

• Your nervous system — suddenly losing routine, safety, touch, familiarity
• Your identity — who you were with them vs. who you are now
• Your future — the one you imagined is now gone
• Your energy body — especially the heart, solar plexus, and root chakras
• Your belief systems — “Will I ever love again?” “Was it me?” “What if I’m not enough?”

When you understand the layers, the healing becomes less mysterious and more manageable.

If you want to go deeper into the emotional and energetic aspects of healing, you may also explore:

• https://soulschool.au/chakra-meditation-healing/
• https://soulschool.au/revtis-journey/
• https://soulschool.au/a-letter-from-revti-to-you/

Step 1: Let Your Heart Break

The first truth in learning how to get over a painful breakup is this:

You cannot bypass grief.

Suppressing emotions traps you in the cycle longer.
Letting them move through you frees you.

What helps here:

• Crying without judgment
• Talking to someone safe
• Writing uncensored thoughts
• Naming the exact emotions (“hurt,” “shocked,” “betrayed,” “lonely,” “adrift”)
• Allowing silence, stillness, and slowness

Breakdowns often become breakthroughs because they force honesty.

Step 2: Support Your Nervous System First

A wounded heart can’t heal in a dysregulated body.

Breakups create:

• panic
• hypervigilance
• emotional numbness
• sleep disruption
• appetite swings

Your body needs anchoring.

Try:

• Daily grounding meditation: https://soulschool.au/chakra-meditation-healing/
• Breathing practices for emotional release
• A simple “hand to chest + breathe” exercise
• Warm baths or slow walks

If you want deeper support, consider Soul School’s 1:1 Coaching:
https://soulschool.au/1-o-1-coaching/

Step 3: Break the Illusion of the Idealised Relationship

After a painful breakup, the mind does this sneaky thing:

It remembers only the good.
It edits out the truth.
It turns your ex into a glowing, perfect memory.

A painful breakup becomes harder when you romanticise what was actually dysfunctional, unequal, or emotionally draining.

Ground yourself with real questions:

• Were my needs met consistently?
• Did I feel safe expressing myself?
• Was I shrinking to keep the peace?
• Did they show up for the relationship… or just when convenient?

Truth brings clarity.
Clarity brings closure.

Step 4: Rebuild Your Energy Body

This is where Soul School’s lived-experience approach shines.

A breakup hits energetically across:

• Heart Chakra (loss, sadness, emotional shutting down)
• Solar Plexus (self-worth, confidence, identity)
• Root Chakra (safety, stability, fear of the future)

Healing these centres brings your power back online.

Explore guided meditations for this here:
https://soulschool.au/chakra-meditation-healing/

Or for long-term transformation, consider the 12-Week Mentorship:
https://soulschool.au/signature-12-week-mentorship/

Step 5: Reconnect to Purpose & Self

Breakups often reveal how much of yourself you forgot.

You may feel:

• ungrounded
• unsure who you are
• disconnected from passion
• terrified to start again

This is where the rebuilding truly begins.

Try:

• Returning to activities you abandoned
• Re-creating personal rituals
• Spending time in nature
• Journaling about your future self
• Taking small but meaningful steps toward new goals

You don’t need to “reinvent” yourself.
You just need to come home to who you were before the heartbreak dimmed your light.

You might find these pages helpful:

• https://soulschool.au/about-us-01/
• https://soulschool.au/blog-masonry/

Step 6: Let Yourself Receive Support

Healing from a painful breakup is not meant to be done alone.

Talk to:

• a mentor
• a guide
• a friend
• a coach
• a therapist
• a teacher who understands emotional and energetic healing

One of the reasons Soul School exists is because Revti had to rebuild herself alone for far too long — and she didn’t want others to walk through that same darkness without support.

If you’re feeling lost, start here:
https://soulschool.au/contact-me/

Step 7: Alchemise the Pain Into Power

This is the stage where transformation begins.

When you’re learning how to get over a painful breakup, the pain becomes a teacher — not because suffering is noble, but because heartbreak strips away all illusions and reveals your deepest truth.

Ask yourself:

• What did this experience teach me about my boundaries?
• What does it show me about the kind of love I deserve?
• What patterns am I ready to release?
• What version of myself is this breakup inviting me to meet?

This is how you rise.
Slowly.
Deliberately.
Powerfully.

If you want guided transformation instead of navigating this alone, explore Soul School’s Corporate Wellness or Leadership Coaching (for emotional resilience in professional settings):
https://soulschool.au/corporate-wellness-leadership-coaching/

Step 8: Choose Healing Daily

Healing is not a switch.
It’s a practice.

You get over a painful breakup by choosing yourself again and again.

Daily rituals that help:

• morning grounding practice
• intentional movement
• meditation
• emotional check-ins
• reconnecting with people who nourish you
• reading or listening to uplifting resources