How to Deal With Breakup With Someone You Love: Start With Honesty

When your heart breaks, your nervous system enters survival mode. You’re not “dramatic”—you’re physiologically overwhelmed. Losing someone you love is like losing a part of your identity, your routines, your imagined future. So before anything else, give yourself permission to feel what you feel.

1. Let Yourself Grieve Without Rushing the Process

Grief after a breakup with someone you love hits like waves. One moment you’re functional, the next you’re overwhelmed.

Here’s what’s normal:

• Crying unexpectedly
• Feeling empty or numb
• Wanting to call them
• Anger or confusion
• Feeling like you’re starting over

Grief isn’t weakness it’s evidence of how deeply you cared.

Try this grounding practice:

• Sit somewhere quiet
• Place your hand over your heart
• Breathe slowly and say: “I’m allowed to feel this.”

This alone can calm your nervous system and stop emotional spirals.

You can also explore guided healing practices through Chakra Meditation Healing to stabilise your energy during emotional turbulence.

2. Accept That the Relationship Has Changed Not Your Worth

When you love someone deeply, it’s painful to accept that the relationship ended. But acceptance doesn’t mean:

• You’re okay with it
• You’re over it
• You’re happy about it

Acceptance simply means acknowledging reality so you can stop fighting what is no longer here.

Your worth is not dependent on who stays.

Explore Revti’s Journey at
https://soulschool.au/revtis-journey/
to feel seen by someone who’s walked this same emotional terrain.

3. Give Your Heart Space by Setting Boundaries

One of the hardest parts of dealing with a breakup is the temptation to stay connected.

But you cannot heal in the same place you were shattered.

Healthy boundaries may include:

• Muting or unfollowing them on social media
• Not checking their updates
• Pausing communication
• Removing relationship reminders from your environment

You’re not being cold—you’re being protective of your healing.

If you struggle with boundaries, 1-on-1 Coaching can help you build emotional stability during this stage:
https://soulschool.au/1-o-1-coaching/

4. Rebuild Your Identity One Layer at a Time

Long-term or deeply emotional relationships shape your routines, your worldview, even your sense of self.

After a breakup with someone you love, you may feel like:

• “I don’t know who I am without them.”
• “I’ve forgotten what I like.”
• “My life revolved around this relationship.”

This is normal.

Slowly rebuild yourself with questions like:

• What activities used to make me feel alive?
• What parts of me did I lose or hide?
• What dreams did I put on pause?

This is your personal rebirth—gentle, sacred, and entirely yours.

5. Release the Emotional Energy Stored in Your Body

Heartbreak doesn’t live only in your mind it sits in your chest, stomach, throat, shoulders, and breath.

To heal, you need practices that address the emotional body:

• Breathwork
• Chakra meditation
• Somatic grounding
• Walking in nature
• Journaling

Begin with simple daily grounding practices inside our guide:
https://soulschool.au/chakra-meditation-healing/

Your body remembers your heartbreak, and it’s through your body that you’ll begin to release it.

6. Surround Yourself With Supportive People Who Hold Space for You

You’re not meant to carry heartbreak alone.

Talk to people who can:

• Listen without judging
• Let you cry
• Help you stay grounded
• Remind you of your value

If your circle feels limited, you are always welcome at Soul School—a community built on compassion, honesty, and lived healing.

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7. Shift From “Why Did This Happen?” to “What Is This Teaching Me?”

One of the turning points in healing is reframing the breakup.

Instead of:

• “Why wasn’t I enough?”
  Try:
• “What am I discovering about myself?”

Instead of:

• “Why did they stop loving me?”
  Try:
• “Where do I need to love myself more?”

Heartbreak is painful, yes but it’s also fertile ground for transformation.

Explore how this reframing helped build Soul School in our story:
https://soulschool.au/about-us-01/

8. Reconnect With Hope: Your Future Is Not Lost

Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, there will come a day when:

• You laugh again
• You feel safe again
• You trust again
• You love again

Your life didn’t end with this breakup. It’s being rewritten.

If you want structured support, explore the 12-Week Mentorship designed for emotional rebirth:
https://soulschool.au/signature-12-week-mentorship/

When You’re Ready: Take Inspired Next Steps

Healing from a breakup with someone you love takes:

• Patience
• Honesty
• Emotional support
• Nervous-system regulation
• Time
• Gentle self-compassion

You don’t have to do this alone.

You can reach out anytime:
https://soulschool.au/contact-me/