How Do You Get Over Heartbreak: A Powerful, Hopeful Path to Emotional Recovery

How Do You Get Over Heartbreak: The Honest Version

Let’s drop the clichés.
Let’s skip the “time heals all wounds” line.
And let’s definitely skip the forced positivity.

Because if you’re sitting here wondering how do you get over heartbreak, you already know this kind of pain hits deeper than words can explain.

Heartbreak isn’t just sadness.
It’s a nervous system collapse.
It’s your identity shaken.
It’s your routines disrupted.
It’s your sense of emotional safety suddenly gone.
It’s your future rewired overnight.

And you don’t “get over it” you walk through it.

Slowly. Tenderly. With tools that actually support your body and your mind.

That’s what we do at Soul School. Not spiritual bypassing. Not motivational quotes. Just grounded, real healing based on lived experience and emotional rebuilding.

If you want to read more on this kind of transformational journey, explore:
Revti’s Journey
A Letter From Revti

But for now, let’s walk through what heartbreak actually needs from you.

Stage 1: Stabilising Your Nervous System

This is the part no one talks about — the body’s reaction.

When someone you love leaves (or you have to leave them), your nervous system goes into shock.
You might feel:

• chest tightness
• loss of appetite
• racing thoughts
• insomnia
• emotional flashes
• numbness
• panic
• emotional spiraling

This is biological. Not weakness.

To start healing, your body needs regulation.

Supportive tools from Soul School:

• Breathwork to settle anxiety
• Grounding meditation to calm emotional overwhelm
• Trauma-informed presence work
• Nervous system reset practices

You can explore these in:
Chakra Meditation & Healing
1-on-1 Coaching

Your heartbreak isn’t something to “fix.”
It’s something to soothe first.

Stage 2: Making Space for the Emotional Storm

Once your nervous system begins to settle, emotions start to rise.

This is the part where most people try to run.
But the truth?
Feeling is healing.

To get over heartbreak, you have to let:

• grief
• disappointment
• fear
• anger
• longing
• confusion
• betrayal

all move through you.

Not all at once.
Not perfectly.
But honestly.

What helps here?

• Journaling emotional triggers
• Gentle movement
• Meditation for emotional processing
• Naming your feelings without judgment
• Allowing tears

Nothing in you is “too much.”
Nothing is “wrong.”
Your emotions are responding to loss and they’re trying to protect you.

Stage 3: Untangling the Stories You Attached to the Relationship

Heartbreak hurts because of two things:

1. What happened.
2. What it now means.

That’s where internal narrative work becomes powerful.

Questions to explore:

• “Who did I become in this relationship?”
• “What did I sacrifice?”
• “What did I learn about myself?”
• “What am I afraid will happen now?”
• “What version of me is rising through this pain?”

This is deep, identity-level healing.

And this is exactly the kind of work Soul School teaches through our Signature 12-Week Mentorship.

Stage 4: Rebuilding Emotional Strength Slowly, Gently, Honestly

This is the phase where people usually try to distract themselves.
But heartbreak isn’t asking you to distract.
It’s asking you to rebuild.

Rebuild your energy.
Rebuild your self-worth.
Rebuild your emotional resilience.
Rebuild your daily rituals.
Rebuild your connection to your own intuition.

This is where meditation becomes medicine.
Not the mystical kind the nervous-system-resetting, clarity-creating kind.

Soul School Home
Meditation & Healing Resources

Regular practice helps you:

• strengthen emotional capacity
• loosen attachment to old stories
• reconnect to your inner compass
• stop replaying old memories
• rebuild trust in life

Healing is not about “forgetting them.”
It’s about remembering yourself.

Stage 5: Moving Forward Without Rushing Your Healing

One day, the grip of heartbreak loosens.

Not because you forced it.
Not because you “moved on.”
But because you learned how to move inward.

Here’s what moving forward looks like:

• You wake up without feeling crushed.
• You feel hope without fear.
• You breathe easier.
• You laugh again without guilt.
• You trust life a little more.
• You feel like yourself maybe even a stronger version.

Healing isn’t linear.
But it is possible.
And you don’t have to do it alone.

If you’re in this stage, you might benefit from deeper leadership or personal development:
Corporate Wellness & Leadership Coaching